2017-09-16 12:21 pm

Naomi Kritzer

Comrade Grandmother just made me want to wash. I hate stories about exotic native girls experiencing noble yet savage love.
2017-09-07 09:36 am

I like middle class conformity

"“All happy families are alike"
Lev Tolstoy

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2017-08-05 10:40 pm


This https://extranewsfeed.com/tolerance-is-not-a-moral-precept-1af7007d6376 is a very good essay, and I will link to it every time I feel like responding to people who say "liberals are stifling free speech" and "liberals are intolerant of other views".

I'm pleased to say that I haven't felt like responding to them with any frequency in the past couple of years.

"{P}rotections {of tolerance} extend only to those who would uphold it in turn. To withdraw those protections from those who would destroy it does not violate its moral principles; it is fundamental to them, because without this enforcement, the treaty would collapse. It is appropriate, even ethical, to answer force with proportional force, when that force is required to restore a just peace. We seek peace because on the whole it is far better than war; but as history has taught us, not every peace is better than the war it prevents."
2017-07-24 05:20 pm

The exclusion of inclusion

I decided to post this after reading http://lm644.livejournal.com/73784.html
A few of my neighbors have the "no matter where you're from we're glad you're our neighbor" sign up (https://www.welcomeyourneighbors.org/).

I like these signs. They tell me who is definitely not a Trump voter and I like knowing these things about my neighbors.

I agree with the message of these signs - I like multi-origin communities, and I like people who like them.

At the same time, I would never put this sign up myself. It would feel weird. In the heat of an argument I would (and have) insisted on my right as a citizen to welcome whomever I like into my country, but without the adrenaline rush I guess I just do not feel sufficiently American.
2016-11-07 01:38 am

Why I haven't sought out the Legions of Darkness

Is this. Not sure how things work in other areas, but near me dressing up and running around is conditional on wanting to be
a) a vampire
b) a racist
c) a sword-fighting enthusiast
Or a combination of the above. And I just don't like vampires that much.
2016-08-24 11:50 am


Для тех, кому по жизни не повезло еще прочесть Звездные Дневники:


"Ардрит, пытливо взглянул на меня, позеленел (чувства у Ардритов выражаются изменениями окраски, зеленая соответствует улыбке) и спросил:
— Вы позвоночный?
— Да.
— Двоякодышащий?
— Нет, только воздухом.
— Благодарю вас, прекрасно. Всеядный?
— Да.
— С какой планеты, можно узнать?
— С Земли.
— Тогда прошу к следующему окошку. Я подошел туда и, заглянув внутрь, убедился, что вижу того же самого служащего, вернее — его дальнейшую часть. Он перелистывал большую книгу.
— А, вот она!—сказал он. — Земля... гм, очень хорошо. Вы турист или торговец?
— Турист.
— Тогда позвольте... — Одним присоском он заполнил анкету, а другим в то же время подал мне другую для подписи, говоря: — Спотык начинается через неделю. Благоволите поэтому перейти в комнату сто шестнадцать, там наша фабрика резервов, которая вами займется. Потом прошу зайти в комнат шестьдесят семь, это фармацевтический кабинет. Та вам дадут пилюли Эвфруглия, которые вы будете принимать через каждые три часа, чтобы нейтрализовать вредное для вашего организма влияние радиоактивности нашей планеты... Угодно вам светиться во время пребывания на Энтеропии?
— Благодарю вас, нет.
— Как хотите. Прошу вас, вот ваши бумаги. Вы млекопитающее?
— Да.
— Ну, так счастливого млекопитания!
Простившись с любезным служащим, я пошел, как он советовал мне, в отдел резервов."
2016-08-23 11:39 am

И еще обо мне, любимой

Навеяно http://antysk.livejournal.com/260459.html

1. Себя (свое благополучие, свободное время, спокойствие) я ценю больше, чем большинство других людей.
1а. Я не читаю журналов, в которых я могу ожидать прочесть что-то неприятное.
1б. Я не трачу своего времени на чужое образование

2. Пропаганду антивакцинирования я воспринимаю как угрозу моим родственникам, т. е. лично мне.

3. Я никогда не спорю о важных для меня вопросах, и вообще спорю редко и только спорта ради.

4. Я считаю вежливым попрощаться перед уходом.

5. Я всегда прощаюсь с людьми, кажущимися мне глупыми, и редко с людьми кажущимися мне гадкими.
2015-12-08 10:01 am


Pretty sure I wrote about this one before, but who cares - the lj is my memory :) One of the most striking things I learned in business school was learned by accident. We were in Beijing, I noticed a memorial to the Chongzhen Emperor that said he gave his life for his people. The discussion of that led to a question of civil wars, and attitude towards the losers, and I asked these two guys named Victor what the attitude of the winners towards the losers was in Spain. Both of them looked at me as though I was insane, and said that it is impossible to win a civil war.
2015-09-28 03:22 pm

Аааа, гормоны едят мой мозг!!!

Sure, I expected some changes in my thinking due to the whole reproduction thing, but having my first reaction to this photo http://ic.pics.livejournal.com/nemchinov/12646720/107063/107063_1000.jpg from http://nemchinov.livejournal.com/172006.html be "Poor kids" is just plain weird. I don't know this person in my brain. She's officially not me.

And a bit further down there are pictures of the people they murdered.
2015-08-22 02:45 pm

Ролевые игры

Мне почему-то всегда казалось, что мне должны нравиться ролевые игры, хотя я никогда в них не играла, не знаю лично игравших, и даже не представляю себе где и кто в них здесь играет. А тут вдруг прочла анонс игры (http://scene-of-tales.livejournal.com/334.html), подумала кем бы я могла поехать, представила себя женой Людоеда из Мальчика С Пальчик, прорыдалась, и поняла, что не только не хочу играть в ролевые игры, но и книжку эту надо припрятать подальше.
2014-11-13 05:31 pm

Disney princesses

I used to scoff at people who complained about lack of diversity among Disney princesses. "I don't look like a Disney princess, and it doesn't faze me" said I. "Who cares" said I.
Well, I was wrong. I've recently witnessed a person realize that she looks just like a Disney princess (Rapunzel, Aurora and Elsa, to be precise - long-haired blue-eyed blonde). Apparently it's a realization that can make a three-year-old blissfully happy, and I am sorry for scoffing at the very real deprivation of the three-year-olds who do not get to experience it.

Not that failing to experience one particular joyful event is all that life-altering. I mean, there are three-year-olds out there who've never tried sushi, and no one makes a fuss about it, but still. I shouldn't have scoffed.
2014-05-23 04:40 pm


"The wealth gap merely puts a number on something we feel but cannot say—that American prosperity was ill-gotten and selective in its distribution. "

"Reparations would mean the end of scarfing hot dogs on the Fourth of July while denying the facts of our heritage."


My guess is all my LJ friends who read English already read Ta-Nehisi Coates call for reparations.  It's a stirring call, but I'm not stirred.  There is no such thing as American prosperity - there is my own prosperity, and I'm not giving up a piece of it as reparation for crimes of others.  
I acknowledge the deep wrong that was done by white Americans to black Americans and want to erase the results of it.  I'll gladly pay for policies to ensure fair housing, fair lending, good schooling and equal job opportunities for the present and future generations, with the understanding that it would lay a basis of equality not only for African-Americans, but for future groups likely to encounter prejudice or to be in danger of dispossession.  
I acknowledge that racism still exists and affects African Americans to a great and horrible extent and am willing to pay for policies to punish it and for policies to prevent it in future generations, with the same understanding.
I do not acknowledge my personal guilt for the wrong that was done, do not believe that I benefit from that wrong, and am strongly opposed to either paying monetary reparations outright, or treating these necessary and beneficial policies as a type of reparations.

2014-03-01 11:36 am


После третьего поста во френдленте про котиков пошла отфренживать. Котики вообще прекрасны, но на данный момент ощущаются как некоторый диссонанс.
2014-02-20 09:51 am


In general objectification is the lack of concern for rights, feelings and experiences of the one being objectified.
One can objectify others by treating them as tools or by straight-out destroying some important part of them (life, bodily integrity, liberty, sanity...) for purposes of one's own.
However, this happens relatively rarely.

On everyday basis objectification comes down to fungibility - seeing the ones who are being objectified as interchangeable. E. g. if one sees a husband as a combination hammer/vibrator/atm then all men capable of fulfilling these three functions are interchangeable; if one sees a date as eye-candy all good-looking people of the right gender are interchangeable; if one sees poor people as targets of improvement all poor people are interchangeable; if one gets off on inspiration porn all handicapped people are interchangeable.

Not everyone seems to understand that all of these can be deeply offensive.
They are offensive to many people, and they are offensive despite the fact that multiple men search for a wife on the strength of their income/hammer-wielding abilities, multiple women produce porn and enjoy being perceived as eye-candy, multiple poor people beg, and AlejAndro Anastasio makes inspirational videos.

I am often rude to those people.

Below are links to articles by people more polite than me:
2013-08-22 02:14 pm

Личностный рост

Плохо, господамы. Из меня растёт похуистище. В кои-то веки ребёнка нет дома, на работе тихо, русская раскладка на месте. Ввязалась в вякалку в жж и - где мой кайф? где мой адренлиновый вброс? Скучно. Оппаньки :(
2012-06-21 02:45 pm

Somebody's wrong on the Internet


And I'll just let them keep on being wrong. Yes :)))))
2012-03-16 11:50 am

Dang it and drat it

Maternity spoiled my pure enjoyment of the Simpsons. I see the Simpson family (including Maggie, that's what did it) giving each other electrical shocks or Bart march an army of boys down the street and I get a pang instead of an evil laugh. Daughter had better appreciate this sacrifice when she grows up!
2011-10-25 11:49 am
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1. I have the most striking lengha choli at the work Diwali party today
2. I had a choice of four possible striking Indian outfits (ok, 3 and one semi-striking)
3. Yeah!
2011-03-29 07:42 pm
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Yes, I am intolerant

I can understand transsexuals and cross-dressers. I think it's fine that a man can live and work as a woman if that's what he feels like. I've no problem whatsoever with him using the women's bathroom at work. But why, damn it all, can't he put the seat down?